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Navigating Joint Custody During the Holidays

Written by Plakas Mannos | Dec 4, 2025 2:30:00 PM

The holidays are meant to be a season of joy — of family, tradition, and making memories that last. The most wonderful time of the yearBut for parents who share custody or parenting time, this time of year can also bring added stress, scheduling conflicts, and emotional tensionThis is especially true if it’s your first holiday season as divorced co-parents with young kids.

At Plakas Mannos, we understand that co-parenting during the holidays isn’t always easy. You want to make the season special for your children while balancing logistics, expectations, and sometimes strained relationships. Whether your parenting plan has been in place for years or you’re newly separated, clear expectations and boundaries can go a long way in keeping the holidays peaceful for everyone involved.

Here are some practical co-parenting tips for navigating shared parenting during the holidays from our experienced family law attorneys.  

1. Plan Early and Communicate Clearly 

Holiday plans can fill up a co-parenting calendar quickly, and misunderstandings can turn into disputes fast. Review your shared parenting agreement well before the holidays and confirm dates, times, and transportation details in writing. If something unexpected comes up — like travel plans or family gatherings — consider compromise where possible. 

2. Protect Your Boundaries and Your Peace 

During the holiday season, so many things compete for our time and attention. There are only so many days in December, and no one can do everything. If you can’t accommodate a requested schedule change, you don’t have to. It’s important to protect your boundaries and your peace, especially during this busy and oftentimes emotional time of year. 

3. Be Realistic — and Gracious — with Expectations 

No holiday season goes perfectly, even in the best of times. Plans may change, weather might interfere, or emotions might run high. Try to focus on what you can control. A calm and cooperative approach helps everyone, especially your children, feel more at ease. 

4. Create New Traditions 

If this is your first year co-parenting during the holidays, it may feel bittersweet. But new traditions can help you and your kids move forward. Whether it’s baking cookies on a different night, doing a “second Christmas” when the kids return on December 26th, or starting a holiday movie marathon. Your children will remember how they felt during these holidays far more than which date was on the calendar the day they opened their presents. 

5. Know When to Seek Legal Help 

Sometimes, despite your best efforts, communication breaks down or one parent refuses to follow the parenting plan. If that happens, know that you don’t have to face it alone — even during the holidays. A family law attorney can help clarify your rights, enforce existing orders, or seek modifications when circumstances change. Acting early can prevent a small conflict from becoming a larger one. 

When to Call a Family Law Attorney  

While no one wants to involve lawyers, especially this time of year, there are times when it’s necessary — especially if: 

  • Your co-parent refuses to comply with the holiday schedule, 
  • Your co-parent denies your parenting time or access to your children, 
  • Your co-parent plans to relocate or travel without proper notice, or 
  • Your co-parent creates conflict that disrupts your child’s well-being. 

At Plakas Mannos, our team of experienced family law attorneys understands the emotional complexity of co-parenting disputes — especially around the holidays. We help families protect what matters most: their children and their peace of mind. 

The holidays are meant to bring joy — not conflict. With preparation, empathy, and the right support, you can make this season meaningful for your children and yourself. 

If you’re struggling with a shared parenting arrangement or facing a joint custody issue this holiday season, call Plakas Mannos today. Our experienced family law attorneys are here to listen, guide you through your options, and help you chart a path forward. Let us help you protect your family’s future and find peace this holiday season.